Now, this post is slightly different, and I do not want it to be taken in the wrong way at all, this is just something I am trying to do, and think it is great.
Basically I came across this quote last night, It is written by Rupi Kaur, a poet. I actually bought her book "milk and honey" as her work is just so raw and real. Anyway I saw this quote and for some reason felt the need to share it.
This quote really resonated with me for some unknown reason, and what I took from it is - that when you find someone you love, don't lose yourself, don't have someone in your life because you NEED them, have them because you WANT them. Its quite self explanatory, but I really like it because before I had a partner, I was always worried I would change, lose myself and rely on them, and I have to say that I haven't done that.
Finding someone you love is incredibly special, but I always watched people get so dependant on their other half that they completely lost themselves, and as much as you do end up moulding with the other person and really become one, it can be easy to lose yourself in the process.
For me, I have always been an independent person, so I have actually found that I have done the opposite of that. I still struggle, even nearly a year later to really come to terms with the fact that I have someone else to think of. But basically I pride myself on my relationship with Sandhu because I have grown while with him, but in a good way. I have figured where I want to go in life, have worked on myself rather than letting that all go. Sure I have done the typical thing and have not seen my friends as much, but I think that is okay, because he is now my best friend.
Anyway what I am really trying to say in a non-condescending way is that if you are young - or any age actually, and have not yet got a partner - OR have one, make sure you are looking after yourself, grow, develop as one, before you mould yourself with another. I think a healthy relationship is one when they make you a better person, when you grow as one, or as Rupi said, be full on your own, but with the support of that other person.
Of course I am no professional or anything of the sort, but kind of just felt that it had a place on my blog.
So yes I really liked that quote, and I still don't know where this post was really going, but felt the need to share it anyway.
Be happy, get to know yourself and write lists (trust me).
Until next time,
Love Lucia xxxx
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